Saturday, March 30, 2013

The Arts of Conversation, Reading People, and Picking up Chicks



When I was in I was in my early twenties I lived for a while in a south Florida studio apartment that had been fashioned out of what had once been the carport on the side of a single family home.  The man that lived in the house beside me was a musician.   One evening he came over to introduce himself and let me know that he could hear me through the wall while I was plinking around on my guitar.  His first name was Gail, he was about eight years older than me, and he played old standards in a lounge at night.  We quickly found that we had at least two common interests: jazz and girls.  He told me that we could find both at a place called “The Brass Rail” on the inter-coastal waterway in Ft Lauderdale.  He asked me if I wanted to go check it out.  I told him that I didn’t have much experience with hanging out in bars and I could never think of what to say to women that I didn’t know.  He said that I would do fine if I just followed his lead so I agreed to go. 

When we got settled in with our drinks at the end of the bar, Gail began to scan the room and tell me about the female prospects that he saw.  He pointed out the tourists and explained how they were often looking for a “one night stand.”  He pointed out a group of locals and for some reason commented that they would not want to talk to us.  I tried to keep a pleasant smile going as I wondered if I was sipping my drink at an appropriate pace.  I knew that I was shaking a little and I hoped that no one noticed.  I was beginning to think that my friend was as scared as I was when it came to approaching women when he nodded toward two ladies at a small table.  “They are waiting for someone to buy them a drink.  Come on.”  I followed him to the table where he asked them if they were waiting for us.  Nodding at each other they stood up.  One of them held her hand out to me and in a very animated southern voice said, “My name is Fawn and this is my friend Jade.”  I took her hand and mimicked her tone by saying: “My name is Guy and this is my friend Gail.”  Everything turned awkward for a moment before the woman apologized and stated that they were actually waiting for someone else.  Back at the bar, Gail scolded me saying:
 “I can’t believe you said that!” 
“Said what?”
“That we are Guy and Gail!”
“But that’s our names.  What was I supposed to say?”
“Not ‘Guy and Gail’ and the way you said it made us sound like we are a couple of [gay people].”

I was bewildered and I didn’t know what else to say.  Gail paused for a moment and began to explain slowly: “Couldn’t you see that those women were playing a game with us?  They weren’t telling us their real names and they didn’t want to know our names.  When she said that her name is Fawn you should have said that your name is Buck.  When the other one said her name is Jade, I could have said that my name is Rock.  Do you see what I mean?  You just made us look stupid Guy.”  I was amazed that Gail could read the people in the room like that and I was sorry that I had messed up our chance to sit and talk with those women.  I had thought that they were quite pretty even though they seemed to have too much makeup on, and the one near me smelled like a flower.  We finished our drinks and then left.  My neighbor never asked me to go out drinking with him again.  

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